Did anyone ever tell you that talking with a woman is like playing a song? When the conversation flows smoothly and the natural chemistry begins to emerge, it’s like a lovely melody. Unfortunately, when it’s not, it’s like the screech of a beginner learning the violin.
So the key is to try to find the right chord when talking with women.
There are many different ways to do this. Perceive contact is a good start. Too many guys look away or let their eyes plod across to another woman, whilst talking to their date.
Be warned: it doesn’t go unnoticed.
Maintaining a strong eye contact will make your date feel like you are more interested in her and in turn, she will trust you more.
Participating in the conversation is also an excellent way to construct a good impression. All too often, men barely acknowledge when a woman is speaking, which makes her believe he is indifferent to what she’s saying.
You can cessation this from happening by nodding, smiling, and laughing in the right places. If you don’t find what she says funny, don’t try to force a laugh, as it will show. Instead, smile politely.
Choosing the right subjects about which to talk is also very important. Try and avoid talking about yourself and your interests the whole time. Although women love to hear about their dates’ lives, they also like to be able to fragment a little of their own lives too.
Vary your tone, volume, pitch, and pace of speech in order to avoid the conversation become monotonous or boring and avoid negative subjects such as death or illness as these will dampen the mood considerably.
If, for some reason, the conversation stops and there is a break, jump in with either something captivating about yourself or a question regarding something your date has honest said. Women love it when it shows that men are listening to them. They regard it as probably one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
Without even realizing it, most women will drop hints concerning what they do and don’t like in life, love, work, and friends. Usually, this is not small talk. If you can clue into this, then you can learn so much about your date – and use it to your advantage. For example, if your date comments that there are fresh flowers on the table at your restaurant, you can learn several things: a) that she likes flowers; b) that she likes attention-to-detail; and c) that she feels it is an appropriate place for you to meet.
If she talks about her ex, then try to remember what she says in order not to make the same mistakes yourself!
Try to maintain a romantic, but slightly casual, ambience by playing an easy-listening CD or watching a comedy (preferably romantic) on DVD or at the movies.
Take it slower rather than faster…if a woman wants to speed up the pace, she’ll let you know. Take it from me, no woman wants to be rushed.
Finally, be careful with what you say. Women often judge a man on what he has said, without him even being aware of having said anything wrong.
Equally, by saying the “right” phrase or comment, you can catapult yourself to the front of the dating stakes in an instant.
It’s all just a matter of hitting the right chord.
